There seems to be two fundamental meanings to the word (both when you look in the dictionary and when you do a search on Google.)
1) The first is that “fathering” means “bring into being, bring into the world, give life to”.
In essence it boils down to a man donating his sperm to help create a new life.
2) The second meaning of the world “fathering” is “to be the father of…” as in “treat with the protective care associated with a father.”.
In essence to be an active, and caring parent.
It is the same with the word “Paternity”.
The definition of the word “paternity” is: “(especially in legal contexts) the state of being someone’s father.”.
Now that can mean two totally different things.
1) Your genes where used to create a new human so you are the child’s father.
Google the term “paternity” and ads for paternity testing comes up…
(Again, the idea of donating a sperm.)
2) The idea of taking full responsibility as one of two parents in regards to fostering a child.
The idea of being a dad.
As a father you have to make up your mind about what the word “fathering” means to you.
Do you want to give life to a child, or do you want to give a life to a child?
That one letter “a” makes a huge difference in how you look at the concept of fathering a child.
The first view is that a father helps create a child, the other view is that a father is present to raise a child.
But to be present you need to be there.
It’s a decision – and a commitment – that you, as a father, have to make: to physically and mentally be there as much as you can and as much as the child needs it while your child is growing up.
To help bring a child to this world is the easy part.
To help raise it is the rewarding part.
Be more than a sperm. Be a dad.